Peaceful Tarbiyah Three – Minute Process from Upset to Peace

No matter how much we try to regulate ourselves and remain calm around our children, there are times when our children will act out and push our buttons like we would have never imagined. This makes us upset and we might resort to yelling, shaming, blaming or threatening.
Instead of beating ourselves up and feeling guilty about slipping away, here is a three-minute process that can help us shift from Upset to Peace.

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Minute one: What’s the thought that’s upsetting you?
Say it silently to yourself, it might be something like “He/She is so irresponsible, never does homework on time I have to teach Him/her a lesson and fix it!
Now consider the thought that is upsetting you is almost certainly coming from fear. In this case you fear if your child is not responsible for simple homework, how is He/ She going to grow up to be? An Irresponsible adult?

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Minute Two: Realise there is always two sides to every story!
The story your telling yourself is that your child is irresponsible and if you don’t fix him/her, he/she will grow up to be an irresponsible adult
Now consider the situation from your child’s perspective. For instance, He/She may not know how to complete this homework or might need some extra help with it.

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Minute Three: Help your body release the feelings.
Now that you have taken into account your feelings and considered your child’s point of view, release the fear and fill yourself with love and empathy. Read Audhbillah, ward of the shaitaan and the negative thoughts he brings and Trust in Allah’s plan for your child!
❤️You can now return to your child with love!❤️

✨Remember every thought comes from fear or love, always choose love!