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Spirituality / Parenting

May 16, 2020

by Deen Soul · Published May 16, 2020

The Perfect Dua Recipe

We all want our Dua to be answered. Watch the video for The Perfect Dua Recipe. May Allah (SWT) accept all our Duas, Ameen

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I help families find peace within the chaos by ⤦
CONNECTING WITH:
🤲🏼•Allah 🕊• Yourself
🧔🏽•Your Spouse 👧👦 • Your Children 📲• DM

I cannot count how many time mama’s have told me

I cannot count how many time mama’s have told me,
❗“I've been trying really hard to STOP Yelling, Punishing and threatening for a very long time! I have tried so many strategies from the internet…. But I just can't STOP!

❣️I get it. Because I was there too!
I tried so many different tools and strategies but Yelling, punishing and bribing was my knee jerk reaction when my children did not behave the way I wanted them to..

🌱 Working my way through this journey I realised that SURFACE LEVEL BAND AID FIXES(just strategies) WILL NOT HELP!

Let me explain with the help of my unique model.
“The Vicious CYCLE of TRADITIONAL DISCIPLINE”

According to my unique model, it all begins with expectation.

An expectation you either have from yourself, your spouse , your child.

When these expectations are not met it TRIGGERS this cycle. 😫

So, are expectations the real issue?

No!

As long as we are human we will all have expectations and expecting ourselves to not have expectations is an unrealistic expectation in itself. 💚

What is really required of us to do to break this VICIOUS CYCLE is to manage this expectations by Mastering THE EMPOWERED & PEACEFUL MAMA MINDSET and that’s exactly what THE FREE CHAOS TO PEACE MASTERCLASS is about. ✨

Have you registered for it yet?

📢 Comment “IN” and I will send you a link with all details to register and witness all the awesomeness. InshaALLAH.

🚫 STOP prioritising your duties as a mother ove

🚫 STOP prioritising your duties as a mother over your duties as a believer and worshipper of Allah.
🚫 STOP using your children, their achievements and behaviours as trophies to prove that you are good enough and worthy.
🚫 STOP worrying about people's opinions of you as a mother and their opinions of your children's behaviour
🚫 STOP sacrificing yourself , your needs and identity at the altar of motherhood.
🚫 STOP putting your children before your relationship with your spouse and your marriage.
🚫 STOP implementing and following any and every piece of parenting strategy and advice and
✨ START Mastering an EMPOWERED & PEACEFUL MUSLIM MAMA MINDSET.

💚 That’s exactly what the CHAOS TO PEACE MASTERCLASS IS ABOUT.

📢Comment “ IN” to join us on Sunday 29th May @ 11am BST in the free Masterclass where we will wave goodbye to YELLING, THREATENING AND PUNISHING forever AND begin your journey of going from CHAOS to PEACE…

INSHALLAH 💕

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Join us @secure.at.heart and @thedeensoul as we di

Join us @secure.at.heart and @thedeensoul as we discuss:
1) The importance of MINDSET in motherhood!
2) BIG mindset shifts that transformed us as mothers.
3) How is true PEACE and CONTENTMENT achieved!

This powerful discussion is sure to leave to wanting to work on your MINDSET as a mother !
INSHAALLAH

IF YOU ARE: ❗Feeling ANGRY at your children and

IF YOU ARE:
❗Feeling ANGRY at your children and husband all the time because they don’t cooperate and wondering why your life is A CHAOS .

❗Feeling SOUR about arguing with your Husband time and time again about how to deal with the kids and get them to cooperate but can never agree on one parenting strategy so you give up.

❗Feeling OVERWHELMED trying to implement 1000 strategies you have read and watched from the parenting gurus to stop punishing, yelling and bribing and are frustrated why none of them work for you.

❗Feeling like a FAILURE in your motherhood, and think you are messing your children up so you desperately want to change your ways but don’t know how.

❗Feeling ASHAMED when you see your children misbehave and WORRY your children will be bad Muslims when they grow up, this TERRIFIES you
about how you will answer Allah when he questions you about your parenting.

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💕 I GET YOU, I know how hard it is to bury your face in a pillow and cry yourself to sleep because of the shame, guilt of yelling at your kids one more time or having the worst argument with your spouse yet again.

I know that all you want is PEACE AT HOME! 💚
It does not need to be this way anymore because I’m here to tell you that there's another way.✨

A way:
✨That stops you from punishing, yelling and threatening your children just to make them cooperate.

✨Stops you from searching for the millionth strategy on the internet on how to control your anger and become a peaceful mum.

✨Stops the arguments between you and your spouse and puts an end to the chaos of your life by
Mastering an EMPOWERED & PEACEFUL MUSLIM MAMA MINDSET.

🎉That’s exactly what the FREE CHAOS TO PEACE MASTERCLASS is about!
BECAUSE PEACE AT HOME BEGINS WITH A SHIFT IN MINDSET. 🎉

❣️ Drop “IN” if you want to say goodbye to yelling, punishing and threatening your children forever and have PEACE AT HOME!

🙋‍♀️I tried all the possible strategies t

🙋‍♀️I tried all the possible strategies to stop the Yelling, Punishing and Bribing, but I FAILED miserably until I realised this…

🎓Over the years the Parenting Gurus have taught the process of raising “GOOD CHILDREN” by Practising different strategies like:
⚡️Rewards and reinforcement like sticker charts,
⚡️Discipline techniques like giving harsh consequences to teach children a lesson,
⚡️Having strict routines and timetables to not give children a chance to play up.
⚡️Using cry it out methods.
⚡️Using timeouts to make children realise their mistake.
And the list can go on!
MAY BE IT WORKED FOR THEM!

🎓Those Parenting Gurus were just adding educational value and teaching strategies without much awareness and attention to the mindset required to be the EMPOWERED, PEACEFUL MUSLIM MAMA!
BUT, they continued to teach what worked for them in their parenting WITHOUT FOCUSING ON:
💥How different the muslim family dynamics are,
💥How our role as mothers is the biggest blessing, and amanah from ALLAH,
💥How you are a completely different individual to them and,
💥How unique your children and their needs are.

And I am willing to bet that if you can't stop yelling, punishing and bribing even after Implementing all the strategies from the internet ,
You and your husband get into regular arguments about how to raise your children,
Your children's behaviour is getting worse day by day and,
Your life is CHAOS then I know you are falling victim to the
Parenting Gurus Strategy.

😩It took me years of working on myself to realise that,
NO STRATEGY will help me and YOU to STOP Yelling, Punishing and Bribing our children without MASTERING THE EMPOWERED & PEACEFUL MUSLIM MAMA MINDSET.

It was the simplest shift, but boy it was hard to find my way to it!
It does need to be this way for you because I have done all the heavy lifting and now want to share that with you in
🎉THE CHAOS TO PEACE MASTERCLASS(FREE)🎉
where you will Master the Empowered, Peaceful Muslim Mama Mindset without yelling, punishing and threatening for a Harmonious Home.

Drop a 🕊 if you want to put an end to the Punishing,Yelling in your life by mastering the EMPOWERED AND PEACEFUL MUSLIM MAMA MINDSET

🔋POWER-PACKED conversation about clarifying the

🔋POWER-PACKED conversation about clarifying the misunderstanding between Self Worth and Self Esteem.
We discussed:
✨The difference between self worth and self esteem.
✨Our personal experiences with this confusion.
✨How you can begin this journey to rediscover your true worthiness.

We throughly enjoyed this conversation and can bet you did too!

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Currently living in a world of self help with all

Currently living in a world of self help with all the “SELF” words so casually thrown around it’s easy to get confused between Self Worth and Self Esteem.
Though they sound similar these two concepts are quite different and misunderstanding them can actually be quite DANGEROUS.
So it’s super important to clarify this confusion.
So join us MAISARA from @deensoul and Naseeha from @nice_advice as we discuss:
✨the difference between self worth and self esteem
✨Our personal experiences with this confusion
✨How you can begin this journey to rediscover your true worthiness.

Join us for a value packed 30 minutes on Sunday 15th May @ 2:30pm BST/ 9:30am EDT

Drop a 💛 if you will join us live .
Looking forward to see you there.

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1️⃣Believed I needed to be FIXED: I believed

1️⃣Believed I needed to be FIXED:
I believed my bad habits, difficult experiences and incompetencies left me BROKEN and I needed some help to fix up.
How wrong was I!
Feeding into the idea that I was broken and needed fixing up just left me feeling unworthy, not good enough and flawed.
I learnt along the way :
No one is BROKEN and no one needs FIXING because Allah created me WHOLE and I am a perfectly imperfect sign of ALLAH.

2️⃣Rushing to be “THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF!”
Oh boy! This was a biggie for me. I had this almost insane sense of urgency to GROW and become the BEST VERSION OF MYSELF.
I read far too many books, took a dozen courses, invested in programs to work on the different areas of myself that needed attention.
I took too much in too quickly!
Information overload left me with very little time and energy to take action on the information resulting in BURN OUT and some serious OVERWHELM.
I learnt the beauty of slowing down, just BEING rather than DOING all the time and accepting myself for exactly who I am.

3️⃣Expecting PERFECTION :
Yes I am a recovering perfectionist and this is something I have to be mindful of till date because it’s very easy for me to slip into the perfectionist tendencies and they can be DANGEROUS.
I was expecting myself to be consistent 100% of the time .
I was expecting myself to be calm, composed and emotionally stable all the time.
I was expecting myself to be connected to my husband and children in every waking moment.
And the list went on, I was putting unimaginable amounts of pressure on myself.
Which was extremely UNREALISTIC and would leave me feeling rubbish about myself when I wasn’t able to live up to these crazy expectations.
I learnt to have compassion for myself and accept my humanness.
Above all I learnt Peace is not achieved by being PERFECT but only by accepting my IMPERFECTIONS and making PEACE with them.
Are you on you journey of growth? Which of my MISTAKE do you relate to the most ?
Drop your answers in the comments below.

🧕When women reach out to me for help and say:
“ I’m struggling in my marriage, I do so much for him, I DON’T KNOW WHERE I AM GOING WRONG.”
“I’m fed up with shouting and punishing my children, they just DON’T LISTEN to me. I am FAILING as a mum.”
😔I empathise with them and compassionately ask them how this makes them feel about themselves.
😢The most common answers I get are:
“ I feel like a failure!”
“ I feel like I am not good enough.”
“ I feel like I need to constantly prove my love to my husband and children.”
“ I feel like I am in a reactive state all the time.”
“I feel lonely, why is raising a family so hard for me when everyone seems to be acing it”
“I feel like I will never have the peaceful life I wanted.”

💔What I hear behind these heartbreaking statements is that these women have an unhealthy relationship with themselves as a result of which the relationship they have with their family suffers.

When you don’t find yourself WORTHY:
You are in a relationship with yourself that you don’t LOVE,
You find yourself deeply flawed and not good enough.
Imagine you have to be in this relationship for the rest of your life.
How would that relationship affect your thoughts, behaviors, and actions in your day-to-day life?
It will surely leave you:
Angry,
Frustrated,&
Lonely
Where you will find it extremely hard to build healthy relationships with the people around you because,
❤️You can truly give LOVE ONLY when you have loved for yourself,
You can only show COMPASSION if you have compassion for yourself.
You can genuinely TRUST others only when you fully TRUST yourself.
You can only CONNECT with your husband and children when you feel connected to yourself!

⚡️That’s why I harp about the importance of building a
❤️LOVING, COMPASSIONATE, & RESPECTFUL relationship with YOURSELF
where you find yourself
❤️WORTHY of LOVE & BELONGING
Because the relationship you have with your husband and children will be a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself!
I am looking for 3 committed women who want to build a healthy relationship with themselves within the next 120 days.
Drop a ❤️ if you are one of them

“He should know how I feel.” “Why can’t he

“He should know how I feel.”
“Why can’t he see how much I do? I'm tired, Isn’t it obvious that I need him to help.”
“He should understand that I am not OK, even when I say I’m OK.”
“If he really loved me he would know what to do when I’m upset.”
I can’t even begin to count how many times I hear these statements from women I speak to and work with.

These statements are basically expecting your husband to be a MIND READER.
How can you expect your husband to know what thoughts and feelings are going on in your mind?
He surely does not live in your head….
(hahahahaha)

So expecting him to read your mind is totally unfair and leads to:
😢Increased conflict
🤨Shutting down
🤐Silent treatment
😔Loneliness
😒Blame shifting

👆The above completely BREAK communication and leads to unhappy, cold and distant marriages because,
MARRIAGES ARE MADE ON GOOD COMMUNICATION AND NOT ASSUMPTIONS!
Having HEALTHY and EFFECTIVE communication is key to a PEACEFUL MARRIAGE.
This is exactly what I coach and mentor my clients to do inside HARMONIOUS HOMES COACHING AND MENTORING PROGRAM.
I coach and mentor them to:
✨Communicate openly from within
✨Know their blind spots whilst communicating.
✨Learn what healthy communication looks like.
✨Learn to recognise bids for connection.

These stellar skills make them pro communicators and result in a PEACEFUL, FULFILLING MARRIAGE.

I am opening up ONLY 3 SPOTS to work with me 1:1 inside the Harmonious Homes Program
Drop a 🏡 to claim your spot.

Alhamdulilah Two years ago, on this very day I bi

Alhamdulilah
Two years ago, on this very day I birthed this baby,
As my Coach reminds me,
“ You birthed this baby without the help of a man”- @kulsumsamad (hahah)
Those words will echo to me as long as I live inshaALLAH.
(Quoting you there, sorry Kulsum)

❤️My heart is full with a sense of accomplishment and honour, AND gratitude today.
ALHAMDULILLAH. ALHAMDULILAH A ZILLION
🎊Today I celebrate the pleasure of serving the Ummah.
🎊Today I celebrate the birth of an entrepreneur.
🎊Today I celebrate 20+ Muslim Families I have worked with and changed the lives of with allahs help.
🎊Today I celebrate this AWESOME community that Allah has created for me here on instagram.
🎊Today I celebrate my pillar of strength and support, my husband and beautiful children without whose support living this dream would be impossible.
🎊Today I celebrate my Coaches @kulsumsamad @hafsataher.coaching @michelle_venour @layinkasanni who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself.
🎊Today I celebrate me, my growth and the tenacity embodied through the ups and downs of this journey.
🎊Today I celebrate YOU, each and every one of you who is here on this page. Whether you like the posts, comment on them or not , whether you watch and interact with my stories and videos or skip them.
I value you,
I see you and
Appreciate you.
🤲JAZAKALLAH KHAYR each and everyone of you here who has given me love and respect beyond measure.

😢THANK YOU ALLAH, FOR ENTRUSTING ME THIS HUGE RESPONSIBILITY
🤲I pray to You YA HAADI the Provider of Guidance,to guide me so that I can guide the UMMAH towards PEACE ONE FAMILY AT A TIME !
AMEEN

DEEN SOUL started off as a BLOG with the intention to please ALLAH and gain closeness to Him (SWT).
Today, I would like to take a moment to renew my intention.
I intend for Deen Soul to grow into being the COMPLETE WORLDWIDE COACHING SOLITION for Muslim families to invite more peace by putting ALLAH at the center of their lives, connecting with themselves and their loved ones in order to please and seek closeness to our ONE AND ONLY : ALLAH
YA RABB please accept my intention.
AMEEN

I would love to know, how long have you been with me on this journey?

Inner child work plays a very significant role in

Inner child work plays a very significant role in how we show up as mothers.
Join us as we explore
What is inner child work?
The areas it impacts us as mothers
1) Intution
2) Mum Guilt
3) Control
4) Fun and creative
5) Safety

We also share 2 special Announcements !

ANNOUNCEMENT 1
ALHAMDULILAH , it has been my (@thedeensoul)pleasure to COLLABORATE with Javeria.
She will be a part of the HARMONIOUS HOMES PROGRAM as an expert mentor. and support mothers to connect back to their inner child and do the inner child work so that they can show up powerfully in their role as a mother.

ANNOUNCEMENT 2
I’m @consciouslyjaveria creating a supportive membership community for coaches, therapists & healers where you can show all the different part of you without any judgement or shame. A space for space holders to unload and show up, imperfectly human.

We are both excited for what’s in store for us !

May Allah bless all our endeavours .. Ameen

It took me years of hiding behind excuses (lies) t

It took me years of hiding behind excuses (lies) to invest in myself and my family's peace.
There was always an excuse (lie) I was giving myself

🤥I was LYING to myself:
“I don’t have money”
When the TRUTH was:
“ I didn’t believe I’m WORTHY of spending the money on !

🤨I was DOUBTING myself and saying:
“Will this program/ course work for me?”
In REALITY:
I didn't TRUST myself enough to put in the work that might be required to change.

🙄I would find EXCUSES and say:
“I already have a lot going on in my life, I don't have time for this!
In FACT, I believed:
I was not CAPABLE and RESOURCEFUL to make time for this investment!

🤥I BLUFFED to myself :
“My husband would never agree.”
But in all HONESTY,
I was allowing my husband to decide if I get to be the person I always wanted to be and live the life I always wanted.

🙄I put up a PRETENCE and said :
“I am OK and will wait for the right time.”
But deep within I knew:
Changing myself was not a NON-NEGOTIABLE for me and I was comfortable in my unhappiness.

Allah swt himself says in the Quran:
“Verily, Allah will not change the condition of a people as long as they do not change what is within themselves.”
QURAN 13:11

Investing in myself allowed me to do just that:
It allowed me to change what was within me, rather than look for flaws and mistakes in my husband and children.
Alhamdulillah, it has been almost 7 years since I made the first investment in myself.
I can confidently say that:
Investing in my growth has given me the most priceless
Return on investment:PEACE within MYSELF AND HARMONY IN MY FAMILY .
That's the reason I commit to continue investing my time, energy and money in my growth because its a lifelong journey.

What is holding you back from investing in yourself and your family?

This powerhouse of a woman showed up consistently

This powerhouse of a woman showed up consistently for coaching and the results she saw were mindblowing.

She went from lashing out, not knowing how to express herself, and feeling like the relationship with her family was crumbling to a point where she was ready to leave the marriage.
To,
Understand herself better, do the important inner work to get to the root of the problem, and release the barriers she was building up with her spouse which enabled her to show up a better version of herself for her family.

She went from, being miserable and allowing everyone to tell her she is not good enough and worthy which led to a lack of confidence and self-doubt,
To,
Learning her self-worth is not attached to what people think of her but is attached to being a creation of ALLAH which enabled her to show up with self-belief and confidence in her role as a mother and wife.

She went being constantly overwhelmed due to the pressure she was putting on herself to do XYZ to be accepted and loved,
To,
Being relaxed, moving with the flow of things, and even spending time doing things she enjoyed left her happy and at ease.

Having a space to process her feelings allowed her to pour out the worries and burdens she was carrying for years and work on her self-worth, confidence, and self-belief.
Not only could she see the changes but people around her started to notice how much happier she was within just two months of coaching with me.

Alhamdulillah, all this and more was possible for her only because ALLAH made it possible!
He(swt) is the facilitator of CHANGE!
It was ALLAH'S help that reached her and as a COACH I consider myself fortunat🌟e that ALLAH chose me as a means to receive HIS help.
She was committed and took action Allah rewarded her for i!

Do you want to turn your life around just as my client did?
Then,
🌟SEEK FOR ALLAH'S HELP
🌟TAKE ACTION
🌟STAY COMMITTED &
🌟Say Bismillah and join HARMONIOUS HOMES 1:1
which is open for enrollment (ONLY 3 SPOTS )
Grab yours now by dropping a 🏡 below.💥💥💥

💭You think you 're nothing before Allah and que

💭You think you 're nothing before Allah and question if He will ever ever listen to your duas, so you stopped making them altogether.
💭You wonder why your husband is never satisfied with you no matter how much you do for him and the family.
💭You shout, threaten and punish your children when they don’t listen and obey only to think that you are failing as a mother.

👋I see you my friend!
I know all these thoughts leave you feeling
Angry,
Resentful,
Unloved,
Worthless,
Defensive
👂I hear you my sister and I understand how hard it is to navigate these feelings especially when you feel alone!

Somewhere Deep inside you believe you are not good enough…
You Family believe you are not worthy of love and belonging because :
😟You are constantly seeking validation and approval from your spouse and children
And when they don't give it you,
You feel unloved and rejected .
😟You think that you will be valued if you do more for your family so you overextend yourself and burnout only to feel like no one appreciates you and your efforts.
😟You are sacrificing the real you to play the role of a mother and wife to the point that you lose your authentic identity.
So basically,you concluded you are
NOT GOOD ENOUGH because you are relying upon others to make you feel worthy,
When Allah CREATED YOU ENOUGH JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
Your Worth comes from ALLAH
NOT THE WAY YOUR HUSBAND TREATS YOU !
NOT THE THINGS YOU DO
NOT THE GOALS YOU ACHIEVE
NOT THE CHILDREN YOU RAISE !

Reclaim your POWER and accept the worthiness Allah gave you by :
Discovering the REAL YOU
Finding your true IDENTITY, &
Building a COMPASSIONATE relationship with yourself.
So that you know who you are at the CORE and embrace the worthiness Allah already gave you in being a PERFECTLY IMPERFECT CREATION OF ALLAH!
This is exactly what the empowered ladies do inside the Harmonious Homes
If this is what you want too, keep your eyes peeled because something exciting is dropping tomorrow.

As you: Freeze the samosas away, Pack the Ramadan

As you:
Freeze the samosas away,
Pack the Ramadan Gifts, &
Clean and decorate your house to Welcome Ramadan.
I have one question for you.
IS YOUR HEART PREPARED FOR RAMADAN?

Allah swt says in the Quran,
“O You who believe! Fasting is prescribed upon you as it was prescribed on those before you so that you may attain Taqwa” Quran – [2:183]

Let me share with you some facts I learnt about Taqwa from my respected mentors,
❤️ Taqwa lives in your heart.
💪It’s a muscle, it increases and decreases in strength based on your actions.
🏋️‍♀️Ramadan is a training ground for strengthening this muscle.
Just like the muscles in our body get stronger by:
🏃‍♀️Cardio exercises,
🏋️‍♀️Weight training &
🍱 Healthy eating

The Taqwa muscle in your heart gets stronger by:
✅Fasting
✅Dhikr
✅Salah
Recitation of the Quran
Seeking forgiveness from Allah &
Being mindful and conscious of Allah in our day to day activities.

Just like we PREPARE our body by eliminating the bad eating habits and inactive lifestyle, in order to make room for healthier habits that build and strengthen our muscles.
Similarly, we need to prepare our hearts to strengthen the Taqwa muscle by getting rid of:
❌Malice,
❌Jealousy,
❌Grudges, &
❌Unlawful desires that consume our hearts and leave no room for the TAQWA MUSCLE TO GROW !

So before we enter this blessed month,
✨FORGIVE anyone who has wronged you,
✨Seek FORGIVENESS from Allah for all the moments of JEALOUSY AND ENVY
✨LET GO of the GRUDGES, &
Ask Allah to purify your desires!

🎯Let’s all aim to leave Ramadan with a stronger TAQWA than we ENTERED IT !

Drop a ❤️ if you want to get your HEART RAMADAN READY cause I’m giving away 3 FREE IMPACT SESSIONS to help you do just that!
Claim yours now!

3 THINGS TO DO TO STOP YOUR CHILDREN FROM INTERRUP

3 THINGS TO DO TO STOP YOUR CHILDREN FROM INTERRUPTING YOUR IBADAAH THIS RAMADAN
1. PREPARE FOR TRANSITION
2. CONNECTION
3. REDEFINE IBADAAH

Join us as we discuss how you can prepared your children for Ramadan .

As mother, all you want this Ramadan is a a home f

As mother, all you want this Ramadan is a a home full of:
✌️Peace
🤲Worship that draws you close to Allah &
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦Connection to your FAMILY

But you wonder, how can I have that when I am constantly worried about:
😳The SIBLING FIGHTS,
🥵Power Struggles
😫Your children not cooperating and you yelling and shouting at them,
😡The Anger and aggression in the house,
😢The Guilt and Fear that you are messing up as a mother!

In reality, children are more prone to be irritable and act out in the month of Ramadan. This is because Ramadan is a transition for them. Their routines and schedules change considerably during this month. And kids struggle with transitions.
What is required from us parents is to be more proactive and work on preparing our kids to transition into Ramadan with ease.

This will help us achieve, A Harmonious Home, where all the members of your family (kids included) work together to gain closeness to Allah.
Working together requires cooperation and
CONNECTION BREEDS COOPERATION !
When your child feels (prepared for Ramadan) & connected to you then:
✅They make good decisions,
✅They fight less with their siblings,
✅They follow your guidance without you having to yell, scream , shout & punishment,
✅They are able to manage their feelings better,
And most importantly
✅When children feel connected to us, it’s easier for us to help them connect with Allah.

So the most important Ramadan preparation you need to do is to
CONNECT WITH YOUR CHILDREN,
So that you can have a PEACEFUL RAMADAN FILLED WITH IBADAH!

Drop a ❤️ if this resonates with you. Also, Myself @thedeensoul Sana @toddlertarbiyah are doing an IG Live tomorrow, Sunday at 12pm(GST) and 8pm(SGT) on
“ 3 Things to do to stop your children interrupting your IBADAH this Ramadan ”!

Excited to see you there In shaa Allah!

😈 It's so easy to point a finger at another per

😈 It's so easy to point a finger at another person- especially YOUR HUSBAND! Right?
🙄If only he spent more time with me and treated me with love our marriage would be bliss.
😦If only he would be more involved with the kids they would listen to him and I wouldn't need to SHOUT AND SCREAM
😬If only he would communicate better and understand me we would not have as many fights and arguments.
If only this,
if only that
⚡️BLAME BLAME BLAME⚡️
🤦‍♀️I’ve heard enough of these from women &
If you are one of them then I would like to ask you.

🤔Is playing this BLAME GAME helping you get closer to your husband and have the PEACEFUL, FULFILLING MARRIAGE you always dreamt of?

No, for sure.Playing a blame game leads to the downfall of the relationship.
Here is what it leads to in your marriage:
💥It makes both you and your husband very defensive and feel like everything is their fault and no matter what they do it's not GOOD ENOUGH.
💥It creates distance between you and your husband and increses the communication gap which can lead to bad habits like silent treatment.
💥It considerably increases arguments and fights which makes you feel like you are at war in your marriage all the time.
💥The intimacy in your marriage almost disappears because you lose respect for each other.
👹Both you and your husband feel POWERLESS and the winner is SHAITAN!
💥BLAME GAME is extremely destructive, it shows that you and your husband are unable to navigate a difficult situation together.

But what do I do instead, Maisara?
I say:
🌟FOCUS ON YOU !
🌟Empower yourself to make the changes to your behaviours that are holding you back from getting closer to your Husband,
🌟Ask yourself this question everyday : What actions can I take today to sustain and nurture the love, passion and respect in my relationship?
🌟You can only CHANGE YOUR PART OF THE EQUATION and that gives you a lot of power to change the condition of your Marriage.
🌟Remember, it's not you against your husband,
It's the both of you against the problem in your marriage.

Drop a ❤️ if you are READY to take full ownership and STOP THAT BLAME GAME,
So that you can have THE PEACEFUL, FULFILLING MARRIAGE you always dreamt of!

When I ask my clients, what do they do to look aft

When I ask my clients, what do they do to look after their mental, physical and emotional needs? Here are some of the responses I get:
🙄I never have the time for self-care
☹️I am so tired by the end of the day that I can't be bothered with myself.
😒I have so many responsibilities, how can I possibly look after myself?

When we dive deeper and peel off all the layers of excuses.
I find that 99% of the time these Mammas believe,
“ SELFCARE IS SELFISH” and this is because:
⚡️They feel guilty prioritising themselves when they know their children need them more.
⚡️They fear judgment, that they will be labeled as a bad mother who cares less about her family.
⚡️They believe that they will be classified as SELFISH if they put their needs.

As a result of this, they will begin to neglect their needs and lose themselves to motherhood, which further leads to:
❌Resentment towards husband.
❌Impatience and frustration towards children.
❌Forgetting who they were before they became mothers.

🤬In a nutshell they are ANGRY, OVERWHELMED, MOMSTERS WHO DIDN'T TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES, AND ARE NOW STRUGGLING TO FULFILL THEIR DUTIES AS A MOTHER.

If you are one of them if want you to know,
🌟SELF CARE IS NOT SELFISH🌟
⚡️Taking care of yourself is not SELFISH in fact, it's an ESSENTIAL PART of being the EMPOWERED, RELAXED AND PEACEFUL MAMA you always wanted to be because:
💫When you prioritise your needs you don't feel exhausted all the time, this empowers you to take ownership and responsibility for meeting your family's priorities.
💫Taking care of your own needs means that you are happier within yourself and can take care of your family without resenting them or expecting them to validate and appreciate you.
💫When we take time out for ourselves, we give ourselves the opportunity to become more aware of our emotions and triggers and become more at peace

🔥So in reality by taking care of yourself you are actually enabling yourself to take better care of your family.
So let me say that loud and clear
🌟“SELF CARE IS NOT SELFISH” 🌟
Tell me in the comments below one thing you will do to take care of yourself today?

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